Rhett, the picture perfect husband. He fell into the trap of a beautiful woman and couldn’t find his way out, like so many other people. Yes, this goes both ways. The trap doesn’t have to be a woman, just someone who is precisely what you want. However, sometimes what you want is not always as it seems. Take a chocolate bar for instance. Yes, it will quite literally melt in your mouth. Yes, it can hit your sweet spot like nothing else can. But, after eating an entire bag of Hershey’s Kisses, will you gain weight? Probably. Will you feel guilty? You shouldn’t, but you most likely will.
For some reason, our culture has created this idea that you should be with the person who embodies your ideal partner on the outside without even looking on the inside. Yes, Rhett liked that Scarlet was feisty and pretty, but he also wanted a woman who would love him back and not take him for granted. Isn’t that what we all want, someone who loves us back? Yet, we overlook the people who might meet our requirements entirely, just because it isn’t immediately apparent.
So what do we do now? What do we do now that we are holding on so strongly to this idea that what you see is what you get? Maybe, like Rhett, we should let it go.